It’s no secret my capacity to tolerate most humans is diminished by — oddly enough — interacting with humans. But it’s also replenished by meeting humans both in the real world and the virtual world accessible through the Internet.
It’s difficult to say which realm (real or virtual) feeds or diminishes my tolerance more than the other. Difficult because the input is not the same.
The real world is experienced mostly by observing whereas my virtual world offers a more intimate view of people because more of their footprints — past and present — are available for examination and interpretation.
How do these differ?
Well, the actions I observe in the real world are a strong indicator of a person’s values, character, honor, honesty, empathy . . . this is especially useful in unguarded moments when their actions might be closer to showing their true selves rather than something they do when they know they’re being observed.
I seldom speak with people, but if one is careful, even a short conversation offers quite the insight into a person’s character. It’s not just their words . . . mannerisms, facial expressions, and how those words are delivered offer valuable clues in addition to the words themselves.
That’s missing from an online conversation or even the reading of someone’s opinion. Words are all one has to go on. That’s plenty, but is that really all that one has to go on?
Nope. The words they choose are one thing but there’s also what they respond to and what they ignore. It’s how they shape the conversation. It’s the tone they use.
I know full well “tone” is difficult to discern from the written words, especially if someone with a decent handle on using words and intent on writing without a “tone”.
Most people don’t, so they give a lot away. Even so, without the facial clues, the body posture, the animation that’s associated with the spoken word, without all that, one can easily misinterpret the information, tone, meaning, and intent behind the words themselves.
It’s one of the reasons I prefer long answers to short answer; I prefer complete thoughts and sentences fully detailing what one means.
All that said, I’m seldom surprised by people I see or meet in the real world and people I read and interact with in the virtual world. Meaning, even based on limited interaction, I know pretty quickly if “we’ll hit it off”.
I suspect that’s the same for most people, but maybe not; perhaps I have a gift. Nah, not a gift and not just me.
Most people — consciously or not — hone an instinct relating to people. Specifically, I can tell whether I’m seeing a genuine representation of the person and, closely related, whether that person is someone I want to deal with.
Occasionally, I’m not sure what to think of a person . . . but, as they say, give a man enough rope and he will hang himself.
Where am I going with this? Ten-fifteen years ago, the odds of meeting someone intelligent, thoughtful, a person with integrity, a person that could grow to be considered a friend, those odds were much greater both in the real world and on the Internet.
Some of the friends I made back then I still consider friends even though we might not have agreed then — nor agree now — on everything or even the majority of things.
Times have changed. It could also be I changed.
One other thing . . . friends I make in real life have a tendency to fade and exit my life much faster than friends I made online. One could posit online friends are already “plugged in” to the practice of establishing and maintaining a communication channel in the virtual world and via the Internet whereas people who meet in the real world seldom transition into sustained virtual interaction.
It could be I smell bad or I’m really ugly. Or even, I’m much more of a jerk in person than I am online. Who’d it thunk it, uh?
And now, the photo:
Yup, more car details. It’s been fun to get back to them and I have a number of them lined up.
Anyway, this is already longer than I wanted so here’s Mr. Boffo play on words to help me ease out of this post.
I hope the fee is a lot lower than that of a regular psychologist.
In case anyone wonders, this is . . . Checkers Before Squares Were Invented.
And . . . that’s it
Some of these posts will likely be longer as the mood hits me, but most will be thus; short, uninteresting, bland, and relentless.
You can read about Project 313 HERE.
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