Project 313 – Post No. 095

You might soon hear more and more about the evils of tipping and why it should be stopped. At first blush, this seems like it would hurt restaurant workers. After all, a large portion of their wages comes in the form of tipping. 

I’ve been to countries where there’s no tipping and tipping is considered an insult to the workers. For someone used to the US standard, it’s almost disconcerting. You want to reward good service and you want to encourage said good service. 

Here are a few other ways to look at the whole custom of tipping:

 1) You are actually subsidizing the restaurant owners. You are paying their employees instead of the owners paying their employees. That doesn’t happen anywhere else; I can’t open a grocery store and expect the salary of my cashiers and baggers to be paid by the customers.

 2) It’s not a fair system of compensation because tipping is seldom dependent on just the quality of service. Sad to say, but — independent on the quality of the service — I’d get few tips whereas a more likable individual would rake in the dough. 

 2a) Ah, you say, but tips are distributed evenly throughout the restaurant staff. Well, that just means I can keep on being a jerk secure in the knowledge I’ll get a share of the tips earned by employees who were nicer, or nicer-looking, or actually provided good service. 

 3) Tips vary, thus making most tip earners insecure as to their expected income. That makes it difficult to plan finances and make budgets. I imagine, but don’t know, that getting loans based on “potential” income is more difficult than getting loans based on salary. 

 4) Customers — as is human nature — are elevated in power and with power comes . . . less responsibility. Yes, I know the saying is opposite that, but human nature is fairly well documented. When holding the upper hand, people will abuse (consciously or subconsciously) their privileged position. Knowing you hold the power to affect the earnings of your server, you might take more liberties. I don’t mean physical liberties (although that too happens) but other behavioral liberties. You might make stupid jokes the server has to laugh at lest risking damaging your fragile ego and hurting their chance of you leaving a tip. Jokes don’t have to be stupid or mean to be demeaning and tiresome. You might think you’re being clever, but the server has already seen twenty of you during their shift . . . and all of them were funnier than you are.

I could go on, but there’s plenty of information online about tipping and why it’s bad. Restaurants — and other businesses — should pay a living wage.

As a customer, I shouldn’t have to suffer the hateful look of a bellhop when I insist on carrying my own bags to my room. It’s not that I’m cheap . . . I just don’t like people touching my stuff. It’s my stuff.

When I look at the price of a meal, I shouldn’t have to do a mental calculation as to what I can afford to eat if I include a tip (I don’t, but I’m sure people do).

The point is, I’m buying a product; I shouldn’t have to also hire a person. 

I saw an interesting video a few weeks ago (HERE) you might find informative. If you do, consider leaving me a tip in the form of reading 20% of my total posts (~260 posts).

And now, the photo:

Project 313 095

I’ll have a few more variations of these leaves. These are pretty much as shot with a bit more saturation and contrast thrown in for effect. And, of course, a nice attractive and striking frame. 

Rounding out to the nearest month, Melisa and I have been married around 503 months . . . not that either of us has been counting. 

. . . those months just whooshed by  . . .

I haven’t done one of these in a while . . . probably why people will say . . . You Forgot One. 

You Forgot one

And . . . that’s it

Some of these posts will likely be longer as the mood hits me, but most will be thus; short, uninteresting, bland, and relentless.

You can read about Project 313 HERE.

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9 Responses to Project 313 – Post No. 095

  1. colonialist says:

    I agree that the whole tipping thing is skewed or useless. Why, for example, should all staff share in recognition one outstanding individual has earned? Why should anyone giving poor service expect a tip? Why should restaurants act as opportunities for tips rather than employers?

    Liked by 1 person

    • disperser says:

      Again, it’s a cultural thing and one that I suspect few people here even think about anymore; they just automatically tip.

      I wouldn’t mind seeing it change, but I think it will find some headway in that regard because a small percent of the service industry really does make a killing with tips (depending on where they are).


  2. Tipping is an especially difficult issue for us Brits where it has never been part of the culture. The 20% rule in US is shocking to us. On cruise ships they add the tips to your bill and that is why I will never go on one. I always leave the loose change when I am in Europe.


    • disperser says:

      We typically go on cruises but take advantage of special promotions that offer onboard credit that includes the gratuities. We’ve not gone on a cruise where the gratuities were not included. Even so, we’ve tipped the cabin steward on a few of our trips.


  3. Eddy Winko says:

    I was practically refused service in a bar in Boston because I failed to tip the barman, either that or I was drunk! Saying that he was happy enough to serve me again once we had cleared up the cultural differences about tipping.


  4. All excellent points! I agree. Businesses should pay their staff a living wage.
    But I still give good tips if the service is good.

    My youngest got academic scholarships to college AND she worked two jobs and did a volunteer job during her four years of college. One of her jobs was as a waitress at a very expensive restaurant. She said the lunchtime-well-suited business men were the worst tippers…and the retired people were the best tippers. Just thought I’d throw that in the mix for fun! :-D

    PHOTO: Being so colorful it reminds me of the Pick-Up Sticks game! The ones we had were red, green, blue and yellow.
    CARTOON: HA! on Willy and Ethel! :-D Congrats to you and Melisa! :-)
    DOODLE: Cool! Looks like some fancy bird dancing-prints to me! Ha!

    HUGS!!! :-)


    • disperser says:

      Well, I always tip here because that’s how servers make enough money to live on.

      However, like I said, I’ve been places where tipping is not wanted and is considered an insult.

      Would you tip this guy? (one of my favorite scenes from the movie)

      Liked by 1 person

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