Project 313 – Post No. 032

I recently commented on THIS post. There are a few layers to the subject of the post (it’s short, for them who hesitate to click on links). 

The post contains a quote from Carl Rogers regarding treating people as one would a sunset. Namely, we can’t adjust a sunset to our liking; all we can do is enjoy the spectacle for what it is. So we should treat people, he says; let them be and appreciate them for who they are. 

I made a comment about how I can snap a photo of a sunset and, in fact, can enhance it so as to make the memory of it greater than what it was. There are various levels to my answer, as well. 

One level might be how we consider people from the past — or even present — whom we don’t personally know. We may aggrandize their stature or diminish it. We can even have an image that is not consistent with who they are, assigning to them traits, ideas, and beliefs that may be an oversimplification or an exaggeration of their actual beliefs. 

Another level is to consider how we may push others to be either better person or — in some cases — worse persons than they would have been if left on their own. We can either help someone flourish or hamper their development. 

Yet another level is what we choose to emphasize and what we ignore about others. Much like someone might process a photo of a sunset to enhance what they like and reduce what they don’t like, we end up “processing” people based on criteria we don’t often understand even if made aware of it. 

We might hate the way someone acts even as we give someone else a pass for the very same actions. 

The idea of “letting someone be who they are” can — at face value — be itself viewed as a good thing . . . but I can think of examples where that’s not a good thing. 

I don’t know what Carl Rogers meant because all I read is a quote and it may or may not be further qualified in his other writings.

What I know is that watching in awe as someone’s life unfolds assumes the life you’re observing is awesome and the people are awesome and their actions are awesome. I’ve found that’s hardly ever the case . . . but, what do I know? I’m no Carl Rogers. 

And now, the photo:

I had a photo of a similar plant a few posts back. That one was predominately red whereas this is mostly green. I believe it’s two different varieties of the same plant. I’ve seen some that are completely in the red domain, and a deep red at that. 

This one is also treated with a bit of artsy liquefication (my own description for the process). 

I find myself more and more wanting to make up my own words and descriptors for stuff I see or do. I don’t know if that proves I’m a writer at heart or the opposite; that I have no business handling words. 

A few posts back I mentioned something about the kid indicating that it was Willy ‘n Ethel’s son. I misspoke. The kid refers to Ethel as Aunt Ethel, so he’s their nephew. I’m not sure I’m comforted by the fact Willy ‘n Ethel didn’t reproduce or if I feel sorry for future generations who will live without a continuation of the lineage. 

With today’s doodle, I return to the animated GIFs . . . this one is Streamers In A Bunch. 

Streamers In A Bunch

And . . . that’s it

Some of these posts will likely be longer as the mood hits me, but most will be thus; short, uninteresting, bland, and relentless.

You can read about Project 313 HERE.

That’s it. This post has ended . . . except for the stuff below.


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19 Responses to Project 313 – Post No. 032

  1. Most people’s lives need a bit of enhancement!

    Liked by 1 person

    • disperser says:

      Depends what you mean . . . if you’re saying people could be better, that’s all of us.

      If you mean having more excitement, glamour, and glitz . . . I’m fine, thanks.

      Liked by 2 people

  2. As to people…great thoughts/discussion!
    For me…I guess it depends on who they are, whether I just let them be who they are, or whether I work gently to help them learn and grow. And their receptiveness to my help, lets me to know what they want or need…how I can help.
    As I get older, most of the time I just want to avoid people, and hang with Cooper! Ha! :-D

    PHOTO: vibrant! shiny! bright! liquid-y!
    CARTOON: Ha, on what you said! Well, I think there are already enough Willys in the world. And to quote Forrest Gump: “And that’s all I got to say about that.” HA!
    DOODLE: I see a Unicorn’s tail!!!

    HUGS!!! :-)


    • disperser says:

      Thanks, Carolyn, and agree with what you wrote. The reason I commented in the original post was that I saw that as a generalization born out of the idea that everyone is — while different — well-adjusted and on the ball.

      The reality is that many people seem (to me) as pretty screwed up. How much they are screwed up and in what way dictates very different behaviors toward them, ranging all the way from helping to shunning and many different stops in between and even sideways.

      I especially agree with you about avoiding people but I’ll qualify that (first time ever) . . . my general propensity to avoid people is because so many become more of a burden that far outweighs any benefits, and that spans the gamut from emotional to financial to physical. The way the world is today there are just too many people in need of support in any or all those aspects and there’s a point where you (me) just give up and want to retreat to a state where at least the emotional impact is lessened. Unfortunately, that often means — or can be interpreted — as a deliberate callousness regarding the plight of others.

      As for Willy, while he might not be the best, he is mostly harmless, so as far as flawed individuals go, I don’t mind him.

      . . . unicorns! Why does it have to be unicorns?! . . .

      I know you’ve read this post, but . . .

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      • I am very out-going, do enjoy people, and have always worked with TONS of people in my career and in volunteer work…but some days, these days, people wear me out emotionally…so I treasure my alone-time. :-)

        Well, I do prefer the Willy’s in the world over some other people. :-)

        I don’t know. I just thought…colorful, sparkly, unicorn. :-)


      • disperser says:

        It’s that emotional toll that I admit ti no longer being able to handle.

        Let me correct that . . . I can handle it, but no longer want to.


  3. People are as they are.
    People often see what they want to see in others. (Now that’s a real way to get disappointed by others)
    Hard to just be neutral/totally objective – especially since people tend to see similarities in appearance or actions and try to say top themselves “Oh, that ones just like this one…” (Preconceived generality. Another way to become disappointed)
    Life is but a stage…or a very strange zoo.
    Think I’ll just be polite and keep my distance.
    (I hate unicorns. Bacteria eating something or meteor)


    • disperser says:

      It is, these days, easier to keep a distance but difficult to sometimes maintain the distance.

      Physical proximity invariably leads to a certain amount of familiarity and intertwining of lives.

      Interestingly, that’s true up to a certain point at both ends of the scale. In crowded cities, you can have close proximity but have greater ease maintaining privacy (emotional privacy; physical privacy is almost impossible). If you have lots of room, you might have physical privacy but neighbors (the few you have) tend to show more interest and are more likely to interact (introduce themselves, etc.)

      . . . or, I could be completely wrong on all counts . . .

      Liked by 1 person

    • disperser says:

      A fellow unicorn hater . . . they are nasty creatures; I wrote about that here (the story starts after a bit of complaining about the world and stuff):

      Liked by 1 person

  4. macquie says:

    Love the photo in which is more greenish tone.


  5. Truth be told Willie and Ethel’s did produce a son: he is a live and well masquerading under the pseudonym disperser to the agony of all his disciples


  6. AnnMarie says:

    The comments are definitely the cherry on top of this post!

    Liked by 1 person

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