New Year Maintenance

In a previous post, I made a passing comment that although I had not written much fiction, I nonetheless had massive amounts of written words under my belt. 

Many of those words are from interactions with other bloggers, and when I say that, I don’t mean just on my blog. I mean, yes, lots of comments on my blog, but in 2017 I also tried to expand interaction beyond my blog. 

At the end of 2016, I was following around 60 bloggers. Mind you, of those, over half had either stopped blogging or were infrequent bloggers. By the end of 2017, the number was approaching 100. Of those forty new blogs, about half were “silent” follows. Meaning, I liked something on the blog (usually, photos or stuff about writing) and I would follow but had no plans to engage anyone (i.e. comment on posts). 

That means that in about 20 new blogs, I made the effort to engage the blog owner and their guests. 

At this point, I should remind people that if I’m following you, regardless whether you hear from me or not, I do read all the published blog posts but unless something really catches my attention, you won’t hear much from me. 

Let me also repeat this: if I follow you, I don’t expect you to follow me. In fact, I prefer if you don’t unless you plan on actually reading what I write.

Also, if you follow me, me following you is not an automatic thing. I gained a bit more than 200 followers last year (I’m somewhere near 1,300 followers) and a large percentage of those were businesses or new bloggers obviously trying to build a following. Asking me to follow you is a good way to ensure that I don’t. 

I should also remind people that I don’t typically follow anyone who’s heavily into spiritualism or religion or anything that might trigger my sensibilities and desire to debate about stuff. That’s not for my protection but rather just common courtesy; it’s not polite to crap on someone else’s playground. Were I to accidentally follow someone like that, I would try avoiding those topics once I figure out the lay of the land, but I might eventually unfollow them because it’s difficult for me to not respond to stuff. Unfollowing ensures that I won’t accidentally piss anyone off. Yes, it has happened. 

Side note: on the other hand, I welcome all manner of honest responses. I don’t much like dishonest commenting nor do I respond well to profanity or insults, but I can deal with those as well. 

Back to the point at hand . . . all that following and the associated commenting takes a lot of time. Frankly, I hadn’t paid much attention to it until I started adding up all the stuff I wrote. Here’s the thing . . . I can count on a few fingers the number of blogs where my interaction was reciprocated, let alone appreciated. Some of that I understand; it’s difficult inserting oneself into a conversation with strangers. But even beyond that, it seems there is a resistance to accepting new people. Perhaps it’s just me; I seem to have that effect on people. 

I have a core group of regulars (less than ten who are frequent commenters, and another half-dozen who drop by when they have the time) and I’m more than happy to converse with them be it on my blog or at their blogs. But, we’re all also fairly happy to engage newcomers.   

So where am I going with this? Well, unless you are in that rather small group, you’re likely to hear a lot less from me. 

This is not a threat or ransom or cry for attention. I want to concentrate on my interests and therefore I’ll put less effort on my social dealings. With that in mind, I’m back down to about 70 blogs that I follow of which many have not been active for a while (people have lives outside the Internet, apparently).

That said, if you are smart, have a good sense of humor, and want to establish a two-way communication, I’m always game, but it’s less likely that I will go out and find you . . . sorry.

If you do engage, past experience tells me few people hang around for the long-term. Don’t worry, I won’t feel bad and you shouldn’t either; life is too short for that.  

That’s it. This post has ended . . . except for the stuff below.


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20 Responses to New Year Maintenance

  1. renxkyoko says:

    Ah, good thing I found this post on Reader. Lately, I just click your icon to get to your blog. NNo more new posts notifications from my email folder .
    Oh, I know what you mean about the follows, and comments ,and likes. Your comment on my blog is one of the few that I eagerly want to see and read. And I sincerely like to read your blog, and see your pics…. though I’m a bit clueless on photo tech and lingo. Ha ha..

    By the way, there’s a blogger who posts ” old ” photos, and oddities. They are a bit creepy, but, extremely fascinating . I love to look at them.


    • disperser says:

      Good to hear WordPress is working for you again. I know how frustrating it can be when stuff doesn’t work like it’s supposed to.

      Also, thanks for the kind words . . . and I’ll try to keep the techno lingo to a minimum.

      Feel free to provide a link. I’m not much into creepy things, but old photos sound interesting.


  2. renxkyoko says:

    By the way, I just clicked a related post on Thoughts on Blogging. I saw that I LIKED the post, but was surprised that it was dated 2013 ! ! Whoah !

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Following requires managing. I try to keep my follows to around 50 otherwise I can get swamped and distracted. I think it is okay to unfollow when a blog ceases to be of interest. I don’t like the followers who are fishing, most of them are of no interest to me. I often wonder why some bloggers just stop without explanation. When I stop I will write a finishing post to tie up all of the loose ends!

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    • disperser says:

      Yeah, you always wonder. There are blogs I followed that used to have amazing photos and then just stopped. Don’t know if they got bored, went into business, or something bad happened.

      Sadly, one lady that I followed died unexpectedly and I only found out because of another blog that I had just started following. I’ve been thinking that I should make provisions in case anything happens to me, but yes, if I plan to shut down, I’ll definitively let people know.

      I mean, it’s not likely, but you never know what life has in store.

      Liked by 1 person

      • Hard to write a post in anticipation of death. Someone I followed died last year, committed suicide, I didn’t find out until much later and I felt guilty for not wondering where he had gone.


  4. macquie says:

    Please let me know if you determined to unfollow me although I hope it will not happen. :-)


    • disperser says:

      Well, I have to be honest . . . I had unfollowed you.

      But, I do like your art and since I keep thinking I’ll get into drawing and sketching one of these days (yet another hobby to occupy my time), I reconsidered because your work does give me ideas.

      Liked by 1 person

      • macquie says:

        It’s my honor to know you enjoy my art, thank you! :-) And I will look forward your art start appearing on your blog sometime. :-)
        As to follow / unfollow, please feel free to unfollow me if it is getting too much to maintain reads you follow. I try not to gain the number of bloggers I follow too much otherwise I will be lost and stop following and blogging.. ;-)


  5. I completely understand this.
    I feel like I am in a similar place and need to “weed my garden”.
    Learning from blogs, enjoying blogs…all good. But, I, also, enjoy two-way commenting…and making friends. In order to manage and enjoy all of that, I keep things small. But, it may be time to get smaller.
    Thank you for explaining everything in this post. It helped me think through some things I needed to think through.
    Just SUPER glad you will still be blogging! Your blogs and your comments…I look forward to them and I appreciate them!
    HUGS!!! :-)


    • disperser says:

      Thanks, diem3.

      I read somewhere that at most a single individual can have meaningful interactions with about 100 people. Any more, and there are diminishing returns (why I seldom follow people who have thousands of followers — as in 10,000+ . . . there’s just no chance to ever have a casual personal connection).

      Personally, I think 100 people would eat up all my time. There are days when 20 take up a good chunk of my time. Luckily, not everyone I interact with is active at the same time . . . at least, not yet.

      It will be an interesting day if they ever are.

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      • True dat on the number of people we can have meaningful interactions with.

        And I get so emotionally involved with people and their problems, it’s not good for me to have too many to interact with. I had a person tell me “You care more about my problems than I do.” It was then that I knew I had to back off. Not care so much.


      • disperser says:

        That is a problem for me as well. Probably why I seldom share my problems as I know the impact they can have on others. That, and, of course, the fact that the best advice I’m likely to get is my own. I mean, I’ve tried arguing against me, but I’m just too logical and — annoyingly — always right.

        And don’t even get me started on when you try and offer sensible suggestions. That’s another reason I stay away from people with what I affectionately call a “lack of a firm grip on the reality of things”. It took me a long time to learn, but learn I did.

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  6. Interesting, as you wind down, I’m trying to do more lol. I enjoy your photos. It allows me into a world I will probably never actually see first hand.


    • disperser says:

      Thank you, Bonnie.

      I had noticed you had slowed your posting. Good to hear you’re planning to pick things up.

      As for me, I’m not actually winding down. Just controlling the amount of time I spend looking at other people’s stuff so that maybe I can be more productive with my stuff.

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  7. robert87004 says:

    Hmmm, what to say? I almost never start a conversation or leave a comment on a blog but enjoy them when they happen. Then again, after blogging and participating in bulletin boards (back in the day) for 12 or so years, I’m casual about the whole thing.


    • disperser says:

      I used to really like forums; you could really get into deep conversations with multiple people.

      Of course — and unlike Twitter and Facebook — forums were moderated. There are groups now that are moderated, but that moderation means they lock out anyone who does not agree with them.

      Either that, or conversations quickly devolve into shouting matches, insults, and occasionally, threats.

      I tend to be fairly free with my comments. Perhaps too much so.

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      • robert87004 says:

        Generally easier to just not comment or day sonething to the effect of ‘I like’ or ‘awesome photo’ and quit there. Occasionally someone aggravates me enough though, then I comment, finish with the ensuing repartee (discussion/disagreement) and don’t go back.


      • disperser says:

        Well, it kind of depends on the blog. If all I see are photos, my typical response is like yours.

        If I read something that — for lack of better words — gives me pause, I will usually do a little prodding to clarify/explain what was said.

        If I intend to keep following the blog (meaning they otherwise have things that interest me), I might engage in what I hope is a reasoned debate (otherwise I just unsubscribe). If the reasoned debate hits a snag, I’d probably leave.

        Some things elicit an automatic unsubscription, but I do like giving people chances.

        Mind you, this is predicated both on me wanting to follow AND them being interested in me following. Otherwise, amouttathere.


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